Is Mr "no good" playing with your mind honey? Is he not calling or texting like he used to or like he said he would? Talking to you one minute and not the next? Blowing hot like Jalapeno pepers one minute and like cold ice the next? Find out whats really going on at my post: Mind games that dont impress me much!
Little Johnny went to his mother demanding a new bicycle. His mother decided that he should take a look at himself and the way he acts. She said, "Well Johnny, it isn't Christmas and we don't have the money to just go out and buy you anything you want. So why don't you write a letter to Jesus and pray for one instead."
After his temper tantrum his mother sent him to his room. He finally sat down to write a letter to Jesus.
Dear Jesus,
I've been a good boy this year and would appreciate a new bicycle.
Your Friend,
Johnny
Now Johnny knew that Jesus really knew what kind of boy he was (a brat). So he ripped up the letter and decided to give it another try.
Dear Jesus,
I've been an OK boy this year and I want a new bicycle.
Yours truly,
Johnny
Well, Johnny knew this wasn't totally honest so he tore it up and tried again.
Dear Jesus,
I've thought about being a good boy this year and can I have a bicycle?
Johnny
Well Johnny looked deep down in his heart, which by the way was what his mother really wanted. He knew he had been terrible and was deserving of almost nothing. He crumpled up the letter, threw it in the trash can and went running out of the house. He aimlessly wandered about depressed because of the way he treated his parents and really considered his actions.
He finally found himself in front of a Catholic church. Johnny went inside and knelt down, looking around, not knowing what he should really do. Johnny finally got up and began to walk out the door and was looking at all the statues. All of a sudden he grabbed a statue of the Virgin Mary and ran out the door.
He went home, hit the statue under his bed and wrote this letter:
Jesus,
I've got your mum. If you ever want to see her again, give me a bike.
Brilliant Vid - just thought I’d share in case it helps
“Protecting Yourself
The best defense against date rape is to try to prevent it whenever possible. Here are some things both girls and guys can do:
Avoid secluded places (this may even mean your room or your partner’s) until you trust your partner.
Don’t spend time alone with someone who makes you feel uneasy or uncomfortable. This means following your instincts and removing yourself from situations that you don’t feel good about.
Stay sober and aware. If you’re with someone you don’t know very well, be aware of what’s going on around you and try to stay in control. Also, be aware of your date’s ability to consent to sexual activity — you may become guilty of committing rape if the other person is not in a condition to respond or react.
Know what you want. Be clear about what kind of relationship you want with another person. If you are not sure, then ask the other person to respect your feelings and to give you time. Don’t allow yourself to be subject to peer pressure or encouraged to do something that you don’t want to do.
Go out with a group of friends and watch out for each other.
Don’t be afraid to ask for help if you feel threatened.
Take self-defense courses. These can build confidence and teach valuable physical techniques a person can use to get away from an attacker.
Getting Help
Unfortunately, even if someone takes every precaution, date rape can still happen. If you’re raped, here are some things that you can do:
If you’re injured, go straight to the emergency room — most medical centers and hospital emergency departments have doctors and counselors who have been trained to take care of someone who has been raped.
Call or find a friend, family member, or someone you feel safe with and tell them what happened.
If you want to report the rape, call the police right away. Preserve all the physical evidence. Don’t change clothes or wash.
Write down as much as you can remember about the event.
If you aren’t sure what to do, call a rape crisis center. If you don’t know the number, your local phone book will have hotline numbers.
Don’t be afraid to ask questions and get information. You’ll have lots of questions as you go through the process — such as whether to report the rape, who to tell, and the kinds of reactions you may get from others.
Rape isn’t just physically damaging — it can be emotionally traumatic as well. It may be hard to think or talk about something as personal as being raped by someone you know. But talking with a trained rape crisis counselor or other mental health professional can give you the right emotional attention, care, and support to begin the healing process. Working things through can help prevent lingering problems later on.”
There is nothing beautiful about starving yourself or over eating. Find balance. Gain control of your psyche and balance. Stop detroying yourself and get back in touch with your REAL beauty.
Your body is your temple - get help at the following resources:
“Self-Harm (Self-Injury) Self-harm can also be called ’self-injury’ or ‘deliberate self-harm’. People harm themselves in many ways, including cutting or burning, pulling out hair, hitting their bodies against something, drinking heavily or taking excessive amounts of drugs which can lead to an overdose. There are many reasons why people self harm and the meaning for each person is unique but it is very often a way of dealing with very difficult thoughts and feelings and is often kept secret. It can be described as a coping strategy towards any emotional pressure or upset they may be experiencing or have experienced in the past. It is, generally, not a sign of suicidal tendencies. Helen, who self harms, explained her actions when self-harming as “making my emotional pain into physical pain and it was easier to handle”.
People of all ages, gender, religion and culture self harm, so please do not feel that you are alone. Speaking to someone you trust will help you to take the first steps in understanding why you self harm, and about the support that is available to help you to find other ways of dealing with your difficult feelings.
Other actions which may be classified as self-harm include having unsafe sex with someone known to have HIV or AIDS, or someone using severe techniques to avoid eating because they have an eating disorder.
If at any point you feel you need to talk to someone, please use our need to talk pages. Befrienders are not self-harm experts, but they are there to listen to your problems, whatever they are, in a caring, non-judgemental way.
The following are selected resources on the internet that provide information about self-harm. Remember you are not alone:
Self-harm - where do I go? Resources Firstly, visit the sites we link to above. They give you more information about self-injury and what you can do to help yourself.
Where to get help You can turn to your family doctor or, if your wounds are deep and dangerous, to the nearest Accident and Emergency department. If you want to talk to someone in confidence, you can use our need to talk pages to contact a befriender. Befrienders are not self-harm experts, but they will be there for you when you need to talk in confidence. http://www.helpguide.org/mental/self_... http://www.harmless.org.uk/
Self help services in your area Local services that specialize in self-harm are few and far between, but you can find a list of those available by following this link http://www.befrienders.org/support/he...
He/ she hurt you in a way they shouldn’t have. Maybe he/ she touched you inappropriately in places they shouldn’t have. And now you feel broken inside. The only way to heal this pain is to find your voice.
It may be buried deep, but that only means you have to dig deep and find it. Go to a trusted adult - your parents, a teacher, a school counsellor, a friend, a trusted older relative and tell.
Keep telling until someone listens, but most importantly go to the authorities and press charges. No matter how you are feeling and I know you are in pain baby - but this is bigger than you. You have to stop them doing it again. You have to stop them doing to many many others what they did to you. And they will do it again - to you and many others. You have the power to stop them. Use it! This person may be related to you - but remember: Bonds break when bones, trust, boundaries and/ spirits do! You don’t owe this person anything! you owe it to yourself and any future victims to tell! They are the ones who broke the sanctity of family when they hurt you! Remember that! They may have threatened you or your family. Such threats are always false - because most people like this are cowards they dont want people to know who they really are so re not going to do anything to risk this - plus your family are more stronger and protected than you know. The authorities (police) are used to people like this and CAN help you. They CAN protect you and your family. All you need to do is SPEAK OUT!
You will also need therapy. I personally believe Cognitive Behavioural Therapy is best. See linked post: http://thenakedphoenix.blogspot.com/2011/04/because-youre-worth-it.html Its not going to be easy. It will involve a lot of pain, hard work, determination and commitment on your part. But if you do not tell the authorities and get therapy - the pain inside that will tear you apart will be far greater. It will be far greater than anything you have ever known and it will taint and stain everything around you - stopping you from living a full and happy life. And you deserve a full and happy life. There is nothing damaged, dirty or shameful about you. This shame is not yours - its theres. So go out there and claim your life back by:
1) Telling a trusted adult and building a support system 2) Telling the authorities (police) 3) Getting therapy
To help you through this I have provided a link too Childline service. This link is for children and young adults. You can email a qualified counsellor/ therapist in confidence (the email is protected and so is your identity - and they wont tell anyone): http://www.childline.org.uk/Talk/Page...
You may also find the following helpful (regardless of age): RAINN: Free Online Therapy for Victims of sexual assault (whether their attack took place today or decades ago)
it is also for partners (boyfriends/girlfriends)/Spouses, family members, and partners of victims and Friends of victims http://apps.rainn.org/ohl-bridge/
Survivors UK Survivors UK provide information, support and counselling for men who have been raped or sexually abused.http://www.survivorsuk.org/
CEOP is the UK’s national police agency set up to tackle child exploitation on and offline. If you are worried about someone’s behaviour towards a child online, you can report this at CEOP’s Thinkuknow programme provides more detailed information for parents, teachers and young people about staying safe on the internet - visit http://www.thinkuknow.co.uk
National Society for Provention of Cruelty to Children http://www.nspcc.org.uk/help-and-advi... The NSPCC is a charity specialising in child protection and the prevention of cruelty to children. They operate a free 24-hour helpline that provides information, advice and counselling to adults concerned about a child’s safety. National Association for People Abused in Childhood
http://www.napac.org.uk/ NAPAC is the National Association for People Abused in Childhood, and provide support and information for people abused in childhood. The Survivors Trust
http://www.thesurvivorstrust.org/ The Survivors Trust is an umbrella agency providing a range of counselling, therapeutic and support services working with women, men and children who are victims / survivors of rape, sexual violence and childhood abuse. SurvivorScotland
http://www.survivorscotland.org.uk/ The SurvivorScotland website has been developed by the Scottish Government to improve the lives of survivors of childhood sexual abuse. It provides a wide range of material about abuse. Stop it Now! UK & Ireland
http://www.stopitnow.org.uk/help–advice/helpline.aspx Stop it Now! UK & Ireland aims to stop child sexual abuse by encouraging abusers and potential abusers to seek help, and by giving adults the information they need to protext children effectively. The NEXUS Institute
http://rasasc.bizview.co.uk/ Help and support to male and female survivors (and partners, friends, family) of rape or sexual abuse (over 14 years of age) however long ago it happened. Rape Crisis Scotland
http://www.rapecrisisscotland.org.uk/... National rape crisis helpline for anyone affected by sexual violence, no matter when or how it happened. The helpline offers free and confidential crisis support and information. Victim Support
http://www.victimsupport.org.uk/ Independent national charity for people affected by crime. Highly-trained staff and volunteers give free and confidential information, emotional support and practice-al help to victims, witnesses, their family, friends and other people affected. The National Domestic Violence Helpline
http://www.refuge.org.uk/ Run in partnership between Women’s Aid and Refuge. Freephone helpline offering support and information to women experiencing (or who have experienced) domestic abuse and to those seeking help on a woman’s behalf. Barnardo’s - Specialist sexual exploitation projects
http://www.barnardos.org.uk/specialis... Barnardo‘s runs specialist sexual exploitation projects that offer a safe, confidential environment where young people can go for help, advice and support. I begging you to find and listen to your voice and to make sure everyone else listens too!
Motivate yourself to set goals for your future and stick to them by writing a public letter to the future you at FutureMe, and read other peoples resolutions to spur you on!
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