Saturday, 28 May 2011

Dont Let Anyone Call You Out of Your Name...

Dont settle for anything less than respect.  Remember you are beautiful!

Featured Vid:  Noel Gourdin ~ Beautiful
Real soul music with a powerful message!  Listen to the words!

Plus check out must see post at: Finding your way back to emotional equilibrium to uplift your soul & get you back on your feet! 

Yeah I Said It!

Beyoncé - Why Don't You Love Me

Is it time to start loving yourself?  Check out my post on self love and getting back on course to your dreams at: Some tough love for y'all

The Ronettes - Be My Baby!

Ms Dandridge

Dorothy Jean Dandridge (November 9, 1922 – September 8, 1965) was an American actress and popular singer, and was the first African American to be nominated for an Academy Award for Best Actress.[1]
She performed as a vocalist in venues such as the Nathan Featherston and the Apollo Theater. In 1954, she was nominated for an Academy Award for Best Actress and a BAFTA Award for Best Actress in a Leading Role for Carmen Jones, and, in 1959, was nominated for a Golden Globe Award for Best Actress in a Motion Picture Musical or Comedy for Porgy and Bess. In 1999, she was the subject of the HBO biopic Introducing Dorothy Dandridge. She has been recognized on the Hollywood Walk of Fame.

Etta James I'd Rather Go Blind

Is heart break getting you down? Why not check out my post: How to get over your ex

Or maybe you are feeling a little needy and emotional? Then why not check out: Never make someone priority in your life when you are just an option in theirs!

Dorothy Dandridge

Dorothy Dandridge - Life Magazine [United States] (1 November 1954)

Nancy Sinatra - These Boots Are Made For Walking (1966)

Is Mr "no good" playing with your mind honey?  Is he not calling or texting like he used to or like he said he would?  Talking to you one minute and not the next?  Blowing hot like Jalapeno pepers one minute and like cold ice the next?  Find out whats really going on at my post: Mind games that dont impress me much!

I wanna be loved by you(remix version)...Marilyn Monroe

Boop Bip Be Doo...

Vintage Moment - Hot Sexy!

Mind games: That don’t impress me much

*Just for fun - you can answer anonymously if you want*

Why do people play mind games?
Why cant we all be honest or is that too logical?
Do you really have to treat them mean to keep them keen?…
Have you ever run game?

Or got caught up? Share your tales here…

Little Johnny Joke

Little Johnny wants a new Bicycle

Little Johnny went to his mother demanding a new bicycle. His mother decided that he should take a look at himself and the way he acts. She said, "Well Johnny, it isn't Christmas and we don't have the money to just go out and buy you anything you want. So why don't you write a letter to Jesus and pray for one instead."

After his temper tantrum his mother sent him to his room. He finally sat down to write a letter to Jesus.

Dear Jesus,
I've been a good boy this year and would appreciate a new bicycle.
Your Friend,

Now Johnny knew that Jesus really knew what kind of boy he was (a brat). So he ripped up the letter and decided to give it another try.

Dear Jesus,
I've been an OK boy this year and I want a new bicycle.
Yours truly,

Well, Johnny knew this wasn't totally honest so he tore it up and tried again.

Dear Jesus,
I've thought about being a good boy this year and can I have a bicycle?

Well Johnny looked deep down in his heart, which by the way was what his mother really wanted. He knew he had been terrible and was deserving of almost nothing. He crumpled up the letter, threw it in the trash can and went running out of the house. He aimlessly wandered about depressed because of the way he treated his parents and really considered his actions.

He finally found himself in front of a Catholic church. Johnny went inside and knelt down, looking around, not knowing what he should really do. Johnny finally got up and began to walk out the door and was looking at all the statues. All of a sudden he grabbed a statue of the Virgin Mary and ran out the door.

He went home, hit the statue under his bed and wrote this letter:

I've got your mum. If you ever want to see her again, give me a bike. 

Signed: You know who


Self Love - Infinate

Life is Happiness...Live Each Day To The Full!

Live, Laugh, Love

Date Rape:

Brilliant Vid - just thought I’d share in case it helps

Protecting Yourself
The best defense against date rape is to try to prevent it whenever possible. Here are some things both girls and guys can do:
Avoid secluded places (this may even mean your room or your partner’s) until you trust your partner.
Don’t spend time alone with someone who makes you feel uneasy or uncomfortable. This means following your instincts and removing yourself from situations that you don’t feel good about.
Stay sober and aware. If you’re with someone you don’t know very well, be aware of what’s going on around you and try to stay in control. Also, be aware of your date’s ability to consent to sexual activity — you may become guilty of committing rape if the other person is not in a condition to respond or react.
Know what you want. Be clear about what kind of relationship you want with another person. If you are not sure, then ask the other person to respect your feelings and to give you time. Don’t allow yourself to be subject to peer pressure or encouraged to do something that you don’t want to do.
Go out with a group of friends and watch out for each other.
Don’t be afraid to ask for help if you feel threatened.
Take self-defense courses. These can build confidence and teach valuable physical techniques a person can use to get away from an attacker.

Getting Help 
Unfortunately, even if someone takes every precaution, date rape can still happen. If you’re raped, here are some things that you can do:
If you’re injured, go straight to the emergency room — most medical centers and hospital emergency departments have doctors and counselors who have been trained to take care of someone who has been raped.
Call or find a friend, family member, or someone you feel safe with and tell them what happened.
If you want to report the rape, call the police right away. Preserve all the physical evidence. Don’t change clothes or wash.

Write down as much as you can remember about the event.
If you aren’t sure what to do, call a rape crisis center. If you don’t know the number, your local phone book will have hotline numbers.

Don’t be afraid to ask questions and get information. You’ll have lots of questions as you go through the process — such as whether to report the rape, who to tell, and the kinds of reactions you may get from others.
Rape isn’t just physically damaging — it can be emotionally traumatic as well. It may be hard to think or talk about something as personal as being raped by someone you know. But talking with a trained rape crisis counselor or other mental health professional can give you the right emotional attention, care, and support to begin the healing process. Working things through can help prevent lingering problems later on.”

Spikeys in bottles
Find out more about above glow in dark bottle stopper and straw device at: Device aims to stop spiked drinks

Other resources:
Prevalence of date rape:
More about date rape drugs:
Steps to take if drugged/general info:
Find your local crisis center:

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Eating Disorders:

There is nothing beautiful about starving yourself or over eating. Find balance. Gain control of your psyche and balance. Stop detroying yourself and get back in touch with your REAL beauty.

Your body is your temple - get help at the following resources:


Self Harm

From the website:

“Self-Harm (Self-Injury)
Self-harm can also be called ’self-injury’ or ‘deliberate self-harm’.
People harm themselves in many ways, including cutting or burning, pulling out hair, hitting their bodies against something, drinking heavily or taking excessive amounts of drugs which can lead to an overdose.
There are many reasons why people self harm and the meaning for each person is unique but it is very often a way of dealing with very difficult thoughts and feelings and is often kept secret. It can be described as a coping strategy towards any emotional pressure or upset they may be experiencing or have experienced in the past. It is, generally, not a sign of suicidal tendencies.
Helen, who self harms, explained her actions when self-harming as “making my emotional pain into physical pain and it was easier to handle”.

People of all ages, gender, religion and culture self harm, so please do not feel that you are alone. Speaking to someone you trust will help you to take the first steps in understanding why you self harm, and about the support that is available to help you to find other ways of dealing with your difficult feelings.

Other actions which may be classified as self-harm include having unsafe sex with someone known to have HIV or AIDS, or someone using severe techniques to avoid eating because they have an eating disorder.

If at any point you feel you need to talk to someone, please use our need to talk pages. Befrienders are not self-harm experts, but they are there to listen to your problems, whatever they are, in a caring, non-judgemental way.

The following are selected resources on the internet that provide information about self-harm. Remember you are not alone:


Young People and Self-Harm

Self-Injury Support

American Self-Injury Information

Information in Dutch, English and German (Netherland)

Self-Injury Leaflets

Self-Injury: You are not the only one

Online community: on-website/menu-id-866/

Recover Your Life: An Internet Self-Harm Support Community

National Self-Harm Network: Myths & Common Sense

Other Resources
How to support someone who self-harms

Self-harm - where do I go?
Firstly, visit the sites we link to above. They give you more information about self-injury and what you can do to help yourself.

Where to get help
You can turn to your family doctor or, if your wounds are deep and dangerous, to the nearest Accident and Emergency department. If you want to talk to someone in confidence, you can use our need to talk pages to contact a befriender. Befrienders are not self-harm experts, but they will be there for you when you need to talk in confidence.

Self help services in your area
Local services that specialize in self-harm are few and far between, but you can find a list of those available by following this link


Abuse: Support & Resources

He/ she hurt you in a way they shouldn’t have. Maybe he/ she touched you inappropriately in places they shouldn’t have. And now you feel broken inside. The only way to heal this pain is to find your voice.

It may be buried deep, but that only means you have to dig deep and find it.
Go to a trusted adult - your parents, a teacher, a school counsellor, a friend, a trusted older relative and tell.

Keep telling until someone listens, but most importantly go to the authorities and press charges.
No matter how you are feeling and I know you are in pain baby - but this is bigger than you. You have to stop them doing it again. You have to stop them doing to many many others what they did to you. And they will do it again - to you and many others. You have the power to stop them. Use it!
This person may be related to you - but remember: Bonds break when bones, trust, boundaries and/ spirits do! You don’t owe this person anything! you owe it to yourself and any future victims to tell! They are the ones who broke the sanctity of family when they hurt you! Remember that!
They may have threatened you or your family. Such threats are always false - because most people like this are cowards they dont want people to know who they really are so re not going to do anything to risk this - plus your family are more stronger and protected than you know. The authorities (police) are used to people like this and CAN help you. They CAN protect you and your family. All you need to do is SPEAK OUT!

You will also need therapy. I personally believe Cognitive Behavioural Therapy is best.
See linked post:
Its not going to be easy. It will involve a lot of pain, hard work, determination and commitment on your part. But if you do not tell the authorities and get therapy - the pain inside that will tear you apart will be far greater. It will be far greater than anything you have ever known and it will taint and stain everything around you - stopping you from living a full and happy life. And you deserve a full and happy life. There is nothing damaged, dirty or shameful about you. This shame is not yours - its theres. So go out there and claim your life back by:

1) Telling a trusted adult and building a support system
2) Telling the authorities (police)
3) Getting therapy

To help you through this I have provided a link too Childline service. This link is for children and young adults. You can email a qualified counsellor/ therapist in confidence (the email is protected and so is your identity - and they wont tell anyone):

You may also find the following helpful (regardless of age):
RAINN: Free Online Therapy for Victims of sexual assault (whether their attack took place today or decades ago)

it is also for partners (boyfriends/girlfriends)/Spouses, family members, and partners of victims and Friends of victims

Survivors UK
Survivors UK provide information, support and counselling for men who have been raped or sexually abused.

The Child Exploitation and Online Protection

CEOP is the UK’s national police agency set up to tackle child exploitation on and offline. If you are worried about someone’s behaviour towards a child online, you can report this at CEOP’s Thinkuknow programme provides more detailed information for parents, teachers and young people about staying safe on the internet - visit

National Society for Provention of Cruelty to Children
The NSPCC is a charity specialising in child protection and the prevention of cruelty to children. They operate a free 24-hour helpline that provides information, advice and counselling to adults concerned about a child’s safety.
National Association for People Abused in Childhood
NAPAC is the National Association for People Abused in Childhood, and provide support and information for people abused in childhood.
The Survivors Trust
The Survivors Trust is an umbrella agency providing a range of counselling, therapeutic and support services working with women, men and children who are victims / survivors of rape, sexual violence and childhood abuse.
The SurvivorScotland website has been developed by the Scottish Government to improve the lives of survivors of childhood sexual abuse. It provides a wide range of material about abuse.
Stop it Now! UK & Ireland–advice/helpline.aspx
Stop it Now! UK & Ireland aims to stop child sexual abuse by encouraging abusers and potential abusers to seek help, and by giving adults the information they need to protext children effectively.
The NEXUS Institute y&id=34&Itemid=69
Responds to the needs of adults who have experienced sexual abuse. They provide an effective, professional counselling service for those in need.
The Rape and Sexual Abuse Support Centre
Help and support to male and female survivors (and partners, friends, family) of rape or sexual abuse (over 14 years of age) however long ago it happened.
Rape Crisis Scotland
National rape crisis helpline for anyone affected by sexual violence, no matter when or how it happened. The helpline offers free and confidential crisis support and information.
Victim Support
Independent national charity for people affected by crime. Highly-trained staff and volunteers give free and confidential information, emotional support and practice-al help to victims, witnesses, their family, friends and other people affected.
The National Domestic Violence Helpline
Run in partnership between Women’s Aid and Refuge. Freephone helpline offering support and information to women experiencing (or who have experienced) domestic abuse and to those seeking help on a woman’s behalf.
Barnardo’s - Specialist sexual exploitation projects
Barnardo‘s runs specialist sexual exploitation projects that offer a safe, confidential environment where young people can go for help, advice and support.
I begging you to find and listen to your voice and to make sure everyone else listens too!

You Twit Face!

Internet addiction

Whats your internet addiction?
Facebook ?
Any tips how to break such addictions would be much appreciated ;) lol

Yum! (Homer Simpson moment)

How to make bake donuts, the healthier option:


How to make traditional fried donuts:


How to make Vegan donuts:


Her Campus - A Female Guide to College/ Uni Life

43 Things (Goal Setting Tool)

Click Photo above and share your goals with others

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Letter to your future You

Motivate yourself to set goals for your future and stick to them by writing a public letter to the future you at FutureMe, and read other peoples resolutions to spur you on!

Friday, 27 May 2011

Dear Daughter...

Letter to My Daughter by Maya Angelou.

1000 Awesome Things

Spotlight on Blog: 1000 Awesome Things, which is just a time-ticking countdown of 1000 awesome things. Launched June, 2008 and updated every weekday.

So Marilyn...

Somebody to love...

Everything Happens for a Reason...




To live now that is the adventure!

It Aint That Serious