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Tuesday, 26 April 2011

Love is also...

Love is… Love is... #52 (1995)
being a good neighbour.



From Lao-Tzu

"If there is to be peace in the world,
There must be peace in the nations.

If there is to be peace in the nations,
There must be peace in the cities.

If there is to be peace in the cities,
There must be peace in between neighbors,

If there is to be peace between neighbors,
There must be peace in the home.

If there is to be peace in the home,
There must be peace in the heart..."
Love is… love-is-66-1995
a sign that spring can’t be far away.




My Heart Makes Its Own Weather

My heart makes its own weather,
So let the world grow gray;
My heart starts saying April
When April’s far away.
In spite of rain and reason
And winter on the wing,
My heart has its own season,
And my heart says it is spring!
Blow wind and bitter weather,
Come care and whistling cold,
An April heart will never
Grow gray or crabbed or old.
Time is a wrinkled treason;
Age is an old untruth
Heart, keep your changeless season,
Green April, golden youth!
by Dillet Freeman

Saturday, 23 April 2011

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Friday, 22 April 2011

TEST: What kind of self-saboteur are you?



At times the only thing standing between you and success is you. Take this test, by Dr Rebecca McGuire-Snieckus, psychologist at The Mind Gym, to discover your negative patterns and find strategies to help you break the cycle

http://www.psychologies.co.uk/personality-tests/what-kind-of-self-saboteur-are-you/
TEST: What kind of self-saboteur are you?

Why humans want more than happiness: Psychologies Article


"Martin Seligman has every reason to be a happy man. Back in 1998, he used his presidency of the American Psychological Association to promote the idea that psychology should not just be about solving problems, but creating better mental health in everyone. Since then, the rise of ‘positive psychology’ has been all but unstoppable, with Seligman’s bookAuthentic Happiness (Nicholas Brealey Publishing) its key text.
Authentic happiness, Seligman argued, required three things: positive emotion, engagement with the world and others, and a sense of meaning and purpose. He proposed ways of achieving this blessed state, even setting out a gold standard for measuring it: life satisfaction, the score between one and 10 people give themselves for how satisfied they are with their lot.
And so, the ‘science of happiness’, as it is often called, became more and more influential, spawning dozens of bestsellers and even being called on by governments eager to improve the ‘gross domestic happiness’ of their citizens.
But Seligman was not happy. That was only in part because, as he admits, he himself has low ‘positive affectivity’, as a not naturally cheerful nature is called in the jargon. He also wasn’t happy with happiness itself. Instead of positive psychology being about living a rich, full life, as he intended, it was perceived as a pure ‘happyology’ – all about achieving a cheerful mood. So now, in his book Flourish, happiness is out and wellbeing, or ‘flourishing’, is in.
The three elements of authentic happiness have grown to the five components of flourishing: positive emotion, engagement,positive relationships, meaning and accomplishment. PERMA, for short.
I went to Seligman’s home town of Philadelphia to talk to him about what lies behind this change of heart and mind. Having read Flourish, with its bold claim to be ‘a visionary new understanding of happiness and wellbeing’, I expected to find a man without any doubts, supremely confident, perhaps to the point of arrogance. That’s certainly how many of my predecessors had judged him. Instead, I found a more cautious, modest Seligman, one who says Flourish is ‘just a work in progress’. So, just how far has that work already come?"
To read the full interview, pick up the May issue of Psychologies, out now 

The joy of giving by David Servan-Schreiber


"I remember one of my psychotherapy teachers telling me that the fields in which people are happiest are those where they can directly help others — fire fighter, psychologist, minister, physician, social worker. I, too, had chosen to stop doing laboratory research to devote more time to working in clinics and to the charityMédecins Sans Frontières. I wanted my day-to-day contact to be with human beings rather than machines at the research centre.
Matthieu Ricard, a monk and Buddhist philosopher, likes to remind his readers that the only reliable source of wellbeing is not what we do for our own pleasure, but what we do to make those around us happy. After all, each and every one of us has the capacity to reach out to others, even if our actual motivation may be selfish (because we want to feel good about ourselves).
At Vancouver University in Canada, researcher Elizabeth Dunn gave a small sum of money to two groups of students. The first group was told to spend it on themselves (paying bills or buying themselves something), and the second group was told to use it for buying a nice gift for someone or making a donation to a charitable organisation.When they came back at the end of their day out, those who’d bought themselves clothes or an electronic gadget had experienced a moment of pleasure but had gained no lasting satisfaction. The other group, however, having used their money to make someone happy, came back beaming with pleasure.
Father Ceyrac, a French Jesuit missionary, once wrote, ‘All that is not given is lost’. I’m not sure I’d go that far. But what I do know is that the next time we’re feeling a bit down, we’d be better off thinking of someone close to us whom we could help, rather than going shopping or tucking in to a tub of ice-cream. If we all adopted this model of happiness through altruism, it could only brighten the state of the planet, crisis or no crisis."


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